These days it is so hard for young girls to be confident in there own skin, In a world of fitness models, diets and edited celebrity's it so easy for us to get be influenced and get suckered in to everything we see in the media.
I should know, from a young age i were always conscious with my body, growing up with idols like Brittany Spears, Christina Aguleria and Jessica Simpson. They were all blonde, Beautiful and Slim so of course being a young brunette with chunky thighs and wobbly bits did not do to well for my confidence.
Between the ages of 14 and 18 i must have tried nearly every diet or weight loss tip out there weather it were starving myself, purging, cutting carbs, surviving on slim fast shakes or living off gravy and veg i tried it all, but what ever i did i were never happy with myself and it were never good enough.
Only when i started getting older, going out and getting attention i started to feel more confident in my skin, society was changing and we hit the era of "the curvy girl" all the sudden you would see magazine covers with Kim Kardashian, Scarlett Johanson and Beyonce, curvy, unique, powerful women with Individuality. I started to embrace my curves, wear what i wanted and eat what i wanted, but i knew it wouldn't stay like that forever.
These days everyone seems to be striving for perfection, you have young girls who strive to look like a Victoria Secret Model because they see that as perfect, i see young girls spending money on butt implants and boob jobs trying to get the perfect curves, or young men practically killing themselves in the gym to obtain them perfect set of abs they see on edited Instagram pictures or in muscle magazines. My boyfriend for example at 32 years old hes in great shape, physically fit, muscular, has abs but stil isnt happy with his body,
Or my 57 year old mother who is a beautiful size 14 but constantly feels like she needs too loose weight or my 63 year old aunty who feels to tall and to skinny. Or all my girl mates who are constantly stressing over what they eat so they can look perfect on that night out. Its the sad reality these days that there is a lot of people out there whatever age, size and gender who are not happy with there bodys and want to change it.
Food is so complex, Ideally its there to feed our bodys, give us fuel and everything else we need.
But in this day and age food is used as a comfort, a taste and feeling or social weather it going out on dates, meeting with friends, having family BBQs everywhere we go there is tempting delicious food surrounding us. Every day i have a craving weather it chocolate, chips or a Chinese every day is a constant battle to try and fight them cravings, with the fear of gaining weight.
Some days i wake up and i love my curves, other days i want to be more tonned and defined especially when i see these girls on Instagram who can wear and look good in anything.
But iv realised a lot of this is down to genetics, hard work or surgery the majority of people in this world do not look like this, the average UK size for a woman is a size 16 and they say in america most of the population are overweight. I say do whatever makes you happy and makes you feel confident. Im gonna continue exercising and trying to eat a healthy balanced diet but no way am i gonna kill myself over it, i love my food and theres no point in depriving myself for the rest of my life. Everyone has something beautiful, attractive and unique about them and we should all embrace that confidence in sexy.
